Several weeks ago, 22-year-old pop star Lil Nas X released a new single: “Montero (Call Me By Your Name).” With the single, he shared a letter to his younger self expressing the grace and wisdom we should all have, writing, “ I know we promised to never be ‘that’ type of gay person, I know we promised to die with the secret, but this will open doors for many other queer people to simply exist.” Join us as we learn about queer culture and examine how it impacts our lives. We are seeking to demonstrate the diverse nature of queerness both in Emory’s campus and throughout the world. “Let’s Be Perfectly Queer” is a new community from the Wheel that seeks to examine what it means to be the queer and queer culture in the current era. He doesn’t stop with challenging straight people’s assumptions also fighting toxic constructs of masculinity in the queer community.Lil Nas X (center), with Bizness Boi and Boyband. He strips such criticism of his work of its thinly veiled homophobia and calls out society’s double standards, showing that we don’t need to accept things simply because that’s the way they have always been.
He kisses and dances suggestively with them, daring people to challenge him for making queerness sexy.Īnd challenge him they do – but he’s ready for them, arguing that: ‘y’all be silent as hell when n****s dedicate their entire music catalogue to rapping about sleeping with multiple women, but when I do anything remotely sexual I’m “being sexually irresponsible”.’ He places men at the forefront, subjecting them to the same sexualising male gaze as women have been for decades. With every performance, Lil Nas X contests the outdated secrecy surrounding gay sexuality. It’s intensely moving to feel so represented, and it highlights just how little we hear it in mainstream music. Even now, it’s still groundbreaking to hear a man sing to, or about another, man.
It’s refreshing for queer sexual desire to be celebrated so openly, and I surprised myself by feeling emotional hearing the opening lines of That’s What I Want: ‘need a boy who can cuddle with me all night’. This is evident across his latest album, Montero, which freely explores his sexuality through an eclectic mixture of genres. Lil Nas constantly builds his responses to the world around him into his work, from trolls and memes to stereotypes and self-reflection. Rather than shrink back for fear of discomfort or polarising opinions, he leans in – and he is clearly having the time of his life doing so. The importance of these doubly-marginalised communities being represented cannot be understated – for many queer Black people it can often feel that there is not only a glass ceiling limiting their aspirations, but walls keeping them from integrating with their communities.Īs he has done throughout his career, Lil Nas leads by example, embracing his otherness. Lil Nas joins a relatively short list of openly queer Black musicians that includes Tyler, The Creator, Kevin Abstract and Frank Ocean. Having an openly gay role model changes lives: giving us someone to look up to, showing a version of ourselves that is beautiful because of its queerness, not in spite of it. While it’s true that sexuality shouldn’t have any bearing on success, Lil Nas coming out certainly mattered to countless fans – myself included. Announcing his sexuality casually via Twitter belied its historic nature, which was important to him: he noted that ‘if you’re doing this while you’re at the top it’s showing it doesn’t really matter, I guess’.